As a mother and a woman I have been conditioned to put others' needs in front of my own, over and over again. I worry that if I take time for myself, everything will fall a part, or someone will need me and I won't be there, or that I shouldn't need time for myself because I should be able to do it all.
But this is all bogus. We both know this but the cultural conditioning and expectations are tough to get out from under.
Research shows that 78% of moms say they put off taking care of their own health to care for family members. Specifically moms, on average, give more time and care to family members in this order: Kids, then pets, older relatives, spouses or significant others, and then (finally) themselves.
Seriously, we are putting ourselves three places behind the family dog (listen, I LOVE my dog but my wellbeing has got to come first).
On top of that, mothers get around 17 minutes of "me time" each day. Sound about right?
How are we supposed to be functioning human beings when we give ourselves just over 15 minutes a day to manage our own needs?
The answer is, we can't.
We need more time, which means we need to take self-care into our own hands and put "me time" up at the top of the family priority list — even if it means something else that would benefit the rest of the family gets bumped down to the bottom.
And you know what happens when we don't care of ourselves...we feel depleted, we have resentment, and we have nothing to give.
If you don't actually make space for your self-care, it isn't going to happen. No one is going to create this time for you, on a regular basis. No one knows your needs like you do. No one is going to do self-care for you. It's up to you.
Your big takeaway for today...taking care of yourself matters just as much as taking care of your family.
So, make your self-care a priority this week. Sign up for my self-care workshop, Refill Your Well. Shuffle around some priorities, let your family know how much this matters to you, and show up to the workshop....for yourself and for your family.
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