Yesterday afternoon while sitting on the couch drinking lemon honey tea, I was flipping through a book that I haven't looked at in years. It's a book that I bought because of the beautiful images but not one I had actually sat down and read. For some reason it called to me yesterday and so I flipped it open and started from the beginning.
The book is called Art of Attention by Elena Brower. It's like a yoga workbook for teachers and practitioners with writings woven in about reducing tension, finding stillness and embracing your highest possibilities.
In the second chapter, blame is explored. Here, guest writer Gabrielle Bernstein offers her thoughts. She says:
It's easy to stay stuck in the past, wishing we could have done things differently, wishing we could be different.
These words stung a bit.
They were a little too true for me.
How long have I been wishing I would have done things differently throughout all the...
After almost 3 weeks in Italy, one week of crushing jet lag and one week of covid....I'M BACK! And I'm so excited to reconnect with you.
Italy was AMAZING - the landscape, people, lifestyle, food...all of it! I loved it and cannot wait to go back. As much as I'd love to share stories and sit you down for a multi-hour long slideshow of the trip, I want to share something else with you.
I want to tell you about REINVENTION.
Fairly early on in the trip, I realized I was craving reinvention.
But let me be clear, I didn't pin point a desire to reinvent myself until recently. What came first was a feeling of utter and complete boredom with myself and how I live my life.
There was nothing in particular that stirred this feeling but instead a longing that I couldn't quite name that kept washing over me as I walked the streets of various towns and villages, watching men and women of all ages riding bikes and scooters as well...
When I was growing up we didn’t have a lot of money and when I was old enough to get a job and make money, it went to supporting my family (buying groceries, gas, paying for rent, etc.).
When I was 17, I wasn’t in school and worked two jobs to make the money we needed to move from living in a campground to living in a motel room.
I also sold my backpack and other beloved possessions for gas money.
When I was in college, I worked multiple jobs and would often send money home when it was needed.
For much of my life every time I earned money, I didn't get to keep it...it was earmarked for survival of some sort or another.
This created a strange and awkward relationship with money. I wanted it and I didn't want it at the same time. Having money was scary and not having money was scary. As a result I felt stressed and anxious about money...
I have taken so many classes, workshops and trainings on social media that my head hurts thinking about all the must-do's and latest algorithm updates. The most common MUST DO is to post 4-5 a week....and if you truly want to grow your following then 4-5 times a day.
I am not interested in that. I don't want to spend my time doing that. No thank you.
But even though I don't want to do that I have still felt the PRESSURE to post and be active on social media.
Because "that's what every other business owner is doing" and "If I want to grow, then that's what I have to do."
These thoughts were totally stressing me out so I took my questions and anxiety about social media to my mentor and coaching group.
Here's what happened....
I shared that I had been trying to keep up with posting on social media regularly but I wasn't taking it seriously and I wasn't enjoying any part of...
For almost twenty years I have been running a small business of some sort...from teaching Pilates and yoga at gyms and in people's homes to career coaching, wellness consulting and owning a yoga studio.
In each new venture, I brought a ton of energy and inspiration but often lacked the strategic know-how as well as the mindset to grow the way I desired.
As a result, this is how I felt or spent my time:
How do you use the first hour of your day? Do you consume news, blogs, podcasts, etc.?
Although it may seem useful to take all that info in at the beginning of your day, it's actually burning your precious mental energy and creating a total distraction from what you are here to do.
Think about how you feel when you first wake up...as you notice the ideas peculating, the inspiration coming through and the vision for your day/life taking shape.
You may feel CLEAR, ON FIRE, READY TO TAKE THE DAY ON.
Then you sit at your computer and begin reading the newsletters that have rolled in, you scroll Facebook or you begin to research something.
And then BAM, you feel completely unfocused, distracted and confused about what you are doing that day and how you wanted to spend your time. The ideas you were so excited about when you first woke up may even begin to feel hazy or out of reach.
What's the problem with...
We all have thoughts and beliefs that get in the way of doing our work, taking action, creating results and living life the way we want to. Fear of not being good enough or concerns about what other people think can stop us in our tracks.
Here's what that looks like:
You get inspired, you feel some momentum, you get ready to action...and then these thoughts come screaming in...
"What if they laugh at me?"
"What if there's tech issues and I don't know how to fix them?"
"What am I doing, this is so stupid, how did I ever think I could pull this off?!"
"What if nobody buys?"
"They know so much more than I do...why would anyone want to work with me?"
And then you decide not to do that FB Live you've been pumped about for the last few days. You decide to not host that webinar you've been planning. You hold back from sharing who you are, what you do and how you help people.
You hide, shrink and withdraw.
You do not grow your...
When you work with me, here is what you will learn:
You will learn to develop self-confidence through your willingness to take action and course correct.
And this confidence will help you achieve those hard to reach results.
It's not rocket science, but it is everything your brain doesn't want to do.
What action are you sitting on TODAY?
What is the action that you know you need to take?
Go do it.
Then… commit to knowing exactly what you need to do - seriously. Trust your own brain to have the answer.
Commit to knowing that answer - not “figuring it out.”
If you have any questions... answer them yourself.
It doesn't mean you can’t ask for help or even ask for coaching.
It simply means to never use "waiting on a response" as a reason to not move forward.
In the moment… you always have a good enough answer.
Moving forward is more important than doing it right. Remember that.
Then, TEST IT. Get out there, and make a...
You know the saying...."If you can envision it, you can achieve it." Well I love this saying but in my experience envisioning my future self living out my dreams and goals is kinda hard. Can you relate?
Take this exercise, from the Brave New Year Retreat, as an example:
Imagine that you magically traveled to the future, one year from now. Consider how this future version of yourself lives everyday life. From the moment you wake up until the moment your head hits the pillow, what does a typical day look like for you, 1 year from now?
Oooohhh this is such a good question but HARD to answer!!
There is so much power in imagining your future self as it helps you figure out what steps you need to take to make it happen.......but sometimes that future vision feels foggy or vague or unattainable.
Why does this happen? Why does it feel so hard to envision your future self?
Your brain does not initially...
For the last several months I have spent every other Sunday afternoon meeting with a circle of amazing women. We share openly and vulnerably about what's stirring in our lives, how we are feeling and what we are needing. There is much laughter, tears, deep listening, heartfelt sharing and a whole lot of love.
I have learned so much from these women including how to intuitively paint, how to make healing herb tinctures, how to share hard things and let the tears come, how to let go and have fun, and how to show up for each other during hard times.
One of the BIGGEST things I have taken away from this circle is that who we surround ourselves with MATTERS.
It’s just a fact of life that some people hold us back, while others propel us forward.
You can’t hang out with negative people and expect to have a positive life, right?!
And I'm sure you've experienced that being close to winners, kind people, talented people, experts, healers and masters...
You will be the first to know when I offer workshops and programs plus discounts that only YOU will have access to.
This is the beginning of something truly wonderful.
I am so glad you are here.